Although this article may sound very specifically adressed to parents, or people who take care of children, I’m submitting the thought to anyone who is willing to take part in the discussion.
Everybody has a clear view of what a park for children looks like, normally there is a field where they can run, there are also some facilities for them to climb, swing, slide, jump, play in the open air, etc. Some playgrounds are more furnished than others.
The idea of such places, from what I gather, is to allow the children to be outside, to play with other kids, socialize, share the same space, learn how to wait for their turn, and much more.
What do you see in reality ? Parents bring toys from their home, and they spend a lot of time watching those toys, preventing the other kids from taking them to play with them. Children fight over those toys and the outdoor facilities are not necessarily used.
I’m being a little dramatic, but I have noticed that whenever even one kid brings their toy to the playground, one can be sure that there will be conflict over it. There is always going to be another child who is going to want it, sometimes the kid is willing to lend the toy, but you can see that the person accompanying them is anxious and only finds relief when the toy is next to them. They fear someone might break, or steal it.
But what do we teach the children by doing that ? I think it’s ambiguous for them, on one side we want to teach them that they should share, but when we go to the park with toys and aren’t willing to let the other children play with them, what are we exhibitting ? If we don’t let our child borrow the other child’s toy, but ask them to lend theirs, is it fair ? What kind of sharing is that ? I’m encouraged to share my toys, but I can’t borrow someone else’s toys ? I would be very angry, no wonder the kids get mad and scream and shout. It’s crazy when you think about it.
The mood is very different on the rare accasions when no one brings their toys in the playground. Much lesser fights, the kids use the swings, slides, whatever facility is there and I find the place more relaxing for everybody, until someone comes in with a motorcycle, a bike, a firemen truck or any other thing.
I really think many fights in the playground could be avoided if the parents didn’t bring the toys to the park. That would let the children play with the facilities, what’s more, the kids who bring their toys in the park are more interested in those another kid brought, so …
What are the other things you find crazy about playgrounds which could be avoided ?
Thank you for reading, let me know what you think in the comment section, I love reading your insights.
Let’s take care of ourselves.
See you around !