Oftentimes I wonder how it is that we tend to show more respect and consideration to strangers than to those we cherish the most.
While searching for the reasons why children tend to be more « difficult » with their parents, I read that, a child will have tantrums, misbehave with their parent because they feel safe with them, they are assured that they will not loose their love. Whereas with those outside of the close circle of intimacy, they fear that by misbehaving, they might loose their love, which is why they apply all the good behaviour the parents have shown them, and why the grand aunt will say « with me, he fell asleep without wimping… » which means « I know how to manage kids and you don’t « , those who have kids get what I’m saying, right ?
Well, while, it’s cute and can reassure a parent that if their kid is acting tough, it’s because they know they love them, and they feel safe with them, I find it hard when it comes to my relatives, acquaintance, friends, taking me for granted. I’m guessing that the same pattern as with children remains as we grow up. But, I think there’s no reason why we shouldn’t be as polite, considerate, careful with those who are close to us, as we are with strangers. It’s amazing how we can be patient with someone who is clearly crossing boundaries, and we remain nice and calm, but when it comes to someone we know, we burst almost immediately.
Next time you interact with your loved ones, be it a good or a less good interaction, pause for a moment and ask yourself, would I be reacting the same way if I barely knew or didn’t know this person ? My bet is our reaction would be slightly different.
Who would think of asking something to a stranger, and not say « thank you » afterwards ? Noone I know in their right mind. We would be too ashamed to be seen as rude, and ill behaved. Then why do we neglect saying « thank you » when someone we know does us a favour ? Why do we mistreat the feelings of those we say we cherish and care for ?
I think that it’s really good to care for what a stranger may think of us, but it’s even more important to care about what our friends, parents, family, children think and more importantly, feel, because noone likes to be taken for granted. At least, I don’t.
Thanks for taking the time to read, if you have one more minute, I would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below.
In the meantime, let’s take care of ourselves.
See you soon !