You see my lovely face and the way I Shine, but would you Believe that I have moments when I feel stuck and depressed ? Oh, yes, I do have those moments from time to time, I am not sure but they seem to be related to the change of seasons, and sometimes I Wonder if it’s not some kind of sad anniversary, but I can’t Always tell. Anyways when I feel low, I have come up with a few tricks which help me go back on track and keep going, that’s What I would like to share with you today, because I have been helped in the past by reading a mood lifting post and tips from other people.
The way I know for sure that I’m having a bad time is when I Don’t feel like cooking, it can happen, but if it lasts more than two days like that, it means Something is off with me. If you may know Something about me it’s that I love eating and I love cooking my own food, it’s cheaper and healthier 😉 So If I stop feeling like cooking, you may worry buddy.
You may find it Handy to notice the signals telling you that you are not functionning normally at the moment, and react quickly before you go too deep, because the longer you stay in that state, the longer it takes to get out of it. Now I Don’t mean you should rush either. Okay,with no further delay let’s go.
The Following are not in order, you can try any that works for you and alternate according to your mood and even come with whatever feels good for you. One rule though, never feel sorry for taking that time, you need it.
1- Stop. Take time for yourself.
The first thing I do when I feel low is noticing that I really am and not just having a bad day after work. A few signals tell me that. The best way for me to know if I’m stuck is to pause and think, or rather feel, I pay attention to how I feel Inside, the kind of thoughts which go through me and how they make me feel. For that, I tell the person with whom I am (family or friends) that I need to take some time for myself and I will get back to them. Don’t hesitate to speak openly about your need for space ; an open and direct statement is better than feeling annoyed by the person because you are not in a good mood and you take it out on them.
2- Thank God (or whatever you Believe in).
Once I take my alone time, I start by thanking God for this new Opportunity to be with myself and Him. For this new chance to grow and learn more about myself. I then ask for guidance and for the strenght to go through whatever it is I have to face.
3- Let the feelings come as they will.
During that alone time, a lot of feelings will come to the surface, they may feel uneasy, the idea is to welcome them, not try to understand them, but feel them and let them go. Feelings are like waves, they start small, then they grow bigger and bigger, and then they fade away if they get the chance to do so. What we usually do is block them and they transform because they need to get out anyway, that’s how we feel anguish which is a mixture of feelings which didn’t get the Opportunity to mature and leave. Think about it next time you experience anguish.
When we feel sad or stuck, we want to stay immobile, tense, hunched. The posture we adopt has a big impact on how we feel. So, Moving our body influences the mind. Depending on the amount of Energy that we have and our possibilities, stretching the muscles brings oxygen to our blood, which helps us breathe better and reconnect with ourselves. A few stretches, Qi Gong, Tai Chi, Yoga, Pilates, or even better a little bit of cardio gives a great boost. Go for a run, jump rope (my favourite), or hit the threadmill at the gym. Go for a walk in the open air if you can. Moving your body will clear your head and help see things from a different perspective than if you stay hunched on your couch all day watching bad shows (although I must admit that this can actually be part of the healing process if it doesn’t last too long).
5- Listen to music and dance.
Music has this magical effect on the mood. It helps bringing out emotions. So, you can make your playlist according to your mood, the result is almost instantaneous. It doesn’t necessarily last if You’re really stuck, but it can help for a few hours if you have a day ahead and Don’t really have time immediately to take care of yourself. It’s a quick fix which allows you to come back later. Dance, it doesn’t matter if you know how to or not. Don’t think, just move your body on the music you are listening to, be it slow or fast. Try, you will see.
6- Read on the subject you worry or feel sad about.
If you feel bad because of a specific topic, I suggest that you read articles about it, information is liberation, « knowledge will set you free », I think Jesus said that. You can read different sources and different points of view (scientific reviews, testimonies, etc.).
7- Write your feelings down.
The other tips are great, but the one that trully works wonders for me is writing down. I find handwriting more therapeutical than writing on the computer, but you do What suits you. Again, the aim is not to understand What you are going through or try to find out why exactly you feel the way you do. You need to write the ideas just as they come out, same thing as the feelings, it’s not good or bad, it is as it is. Period. Write it down as if you were talking to a very close person whom you would tell your deepest secrets. This is the kind of writings that I usually Don’t keep, I either burn or tear them, because I consider them as spoken words, and as so, they can’t be kept, and by tearing the paper or burning it, I say Goodbye to the feelings which where imprisoned. I set them free. Usually, I would feel relieved as I write, and I would keep writing until I feel lighter. There is Always a moment when I feel that I have said enough and I usually end by thanking God for this moment and by acknowledging my ability to heal myself.
8- Cuddle (your kids, your cat, dog, spouse, friends, family members, favourite cushion).
We humans are social beings and we need, crave affection. Sometimes when we feel sad, empty, it’s because we lack of affection. Everyone of us needs a certain amount of physical contact. Some need it more than others, but we all do. Getting some hugs makes us produce serotonin and dopamine which are feel good hormones. Even swaddling yourself in a soft blanket and drinking a hot drink gives that feeling. Hug those around you, share some affection and love. It makes everyone happy, a true win-win situation.
9- Take deep breaths.
Breathing is another thing we forget to do when we feel down. Our chest is again hunched and the breath is superficial. A good way to breathe is with the stomach, breathing through the nose and exhaling through the mouth, the double of the time it took you to inhale. This type of breath is calming and helps relieve the stress.
10- Be patient and grateful, again.
Getting unstuck can take time depending on how long you’ve been there and the amount of struggles you have. It can be necessary to seek Professional help, it’s not shameful to do so, Don’t hesitate if you feel the need. In any case, be patient, time will help, as well as gratitude and faith in your ability to get out of it.
I hope you found these few tips helpful, I would love to know how you deal with hard times in the comment section. Remember to like, share and subscribe if you haven’t yet.
Let’s take care of ourselves.
See you around !